In my opinion most people on social media are narcissists. (solely my opinion)
…Well the people who over post or post about their perfect lives…
If they are so perfect and living the perfect life, how are they finding the time to boast about it. Sure we all boast every now and then. It is social media…so we all like to stay social and share our excitement. . We will boast about a significant date, an anniversary, birthdate or a special event. But I’m talking about the ones that post everything, from what they made for breakfast to how many times they had a bowel movement, and how much in love they are with the perfect person.
I believe most people on social media are covert narcissists. Not your every day full of themselves narcissists but a more deadly sort. They are more discrete, more shy with a reserved personality. They possess grand delusions of entitlement, of being better than others. They are condescending, insensitive, passive aggressive,defensive, hostile and lack any real emotion.
A covert narcissist believe they are highly intelligent, insightful and more beautiful than their parent or child. They view their children as a threat, a possession, a source of jealousy . They are quick to take praise of their child’s accomplishments and just as quick to place blame for short comings. They view their parent as a nemesis. It infuriates them when given advise and makes them extremely uncomfortable to receive love and sends them in an enraged state when their parent gives attention to the children.
In a relationship a covert narcissist will first come across as genuine. Then become self-centered, emotionally abusive, stubborn and will place blame for any and all problems. They will never admit wrong doings, in fact they will play the victim. They are constantly in need of attention, admiration and validation. When the other person see’s through this behavior they will be dismissed and blamed. The covert narcissist will lie about the break of a relationship to gain sympathy.
The one thing your average narcissist and the covert narcissist do have in common is their complete lack of empathy. They know what they are doing and enjoy every second of it. They will spend their down time plotting and manipulating ways to get their fill of narcissistic behavior. When another is low they will kick them lower, when on a high they will take them down for pure pleasure.
Therefore it is my opinion that most people who over post about their perfection on social media are covert narcissists. They have a desperate need to have the social media world believe their lives are perfect. But are incapable of living that life! The fact that some see right through the desperation is irrelevant.
I mean rely if your busy being the perfect loving, doting, honoring respectful wife/husband . Or the most dutiful child and best friend, Or the best cherishing, helpful, fun-loving parent…..how or when do you find the time to boast about it on social media?
On a twisted note….the mix of narcissists personalities will completely blind side social media and go as far as having another post about them!
In the words of a dear wise friend…“If it’s not on Face Book, It didn’t happen”